We Can Change our Internal Programming

Do you ever stop and really listen to yourself as you go through your day?  We say so many negative things to ourselves, and most of the time we’re not even aware of it.  Many of those things don’t even seem particularly important—I never remember people’s names. I’m such a messy cook.  I guess I’ll give them a call, but I’m sure they’ll just say no. Things that not only don’t seem too important, but also seem to simply be “the truth” so what’s the harm in speaking the truth?

The problem for many people is that they don’t realize that those things are “true” because they’ve programmed themselves with that negative self-talk, not the other way around. For most of us, the negative programming started early and in most cases was well-intentioned.  Our parents wanted us to be safe, our teachers wanted us to pay attention and learn, our coaches wanted us to improve our skills, and our bosses wanted us to do a better job.

Although at times, of course, any of those people might have done been intentionally harsh or cruel, most only thought they were doing what was best for you. But studies have shown that by the time we’re grown, we’ve heard literally tens of thousands of “negative instructions” programming our sub-conscious so that we continue the programming with our own negative self-talk.

But the really amazing thing is that if you can be programmed negatively with all those negative statements, you can also change the programming to be more positive.  You can literally re-program yourself and once you’re operating with different programming, you will experience different results.  It’s so simple and yet so powerful.

We can change our internal programming.  One simple place to start is just listening to how we currently speak to ourselves. Once we become conscious of our self-talk, it’s easier to learn how to change it.

Fear Doesn’t Have to Be Your Enemy

Each one of us has incredible potential. We have talents and abilities that are quite unknown to us because we have not allowed ourselves the opportunity to explore and learn who we really are. What holds us back from tapping into our true selves, and enjoying the benefits of the successes that can be ours? May I suggest that, in part, is that we are afraid.

Fear is a powerful influence that can literally stop us in our tracks.  We can be doing fine in a given situation, and then an event may occur in our lives that creates a feeling of fear that begins to fester in our life.  When that happens, our abilities to move forward can come screeching to a halt. Why do we slow our process down or even stop when faced with fear?  We are so focused on the fear that we do not think about anything else. It stops us in our tracks.  Can you relate to that?

Fear may be a good thing if it causes us to stop doing something that may become a detriment to our progress.  It may stop us from getting into trouble.  However, if we do not get past the fear, that emotion becomes chronic, and keeps us not just from doing “bad” things, but also keeps us from doing “good” things.  So, don’t let fear stop you. May I suggest some ideas that can help you get over your fears.

When fear and worry grip at your heart, try the following techniques:

1. Stop and take a deep breath.

2. Sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes, and relax.

3. Imagine yourself succeeding and working through the worrisome situation.

4. Tell yourself’ “I can get through this!”

5. Open your eyes, find a sheet of paper and write down some ideas that you can do that will help overcome the fear you are facing.

6. Choose one of the ideas that you have come up with and begin immediately to do what you have decided to do.

As you engage in these active steps, you will find yourself moving out of your fearful situation, and moving forward in a good way. If you don’t do it perfectly, don’t worry.  Keep trying it.  It will work for you.

Please be assured that you can do it!  Yes, you can!

Believe in Yourself

An important factor in being able to believe in yourself, is the ability to feel good about ourselves. We need to be capable of developing positive self esteem.  How we think and feel about ourselves impacts how we act toward ourselves.

How is your self esteem?  Is it positive, or is it not?

Even if it’s not as positive as you’d like, don’t worry.  Improving your self esteem is not only possible, it can be quite easy.

It starts with desiring to improve, and then beginning by acknowledging things that you are good at.

Take a minute and write down some things that you are good at.  What are you good at?  Start with the basics. You can read this information.  So, you are good at reading. Remember the small and simple things, and you will be amazed at how good you really are.

Then, take time to *do something that you are good at* everyday.  As you do that, you will feel better about you, and who you really are.  Give yourself reasons to feel good about yourself.

Tell yourself, “I am succeeding!” Better yet, write it down. Writing your intentions is very powerful. Write down something positive about yourself everyday. There is *always* something positive about yourself, find it!  Try and find something new everyday, and celebrate it. They don’t have to be huge “important” things.  Even the “little” positives add up. The act of “looking for” the positives is what’s important.

Remember: You are awesome!  Don’t let yourself forget it.  😉

3 steps for confronting the problem of workplace stress

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stress3Many companies work tirelessly to ensure corporate health and wellness, but there’s a common problem that often stands in their way: stress. If workers are feeling overworked, emotionally distraught or unable to tackle their agendas for any other reason, it can be tremendously draining for an organization.

Sadly, this is a common problem. According to HR Professionals Magazine, it’s an expensive one for companies everywhere. In the United States, the total expense that companies incur because of worker stress totals an estimated $300 billion per year. This financial burden stems from several specific causes – health care expenditures are greater, productivity dips when employees take time off and, in extreme cases, stress can lead to diseases that seriously impede workers long-term.

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Just a little Friday positivity….


I saw the above picture on the Ellie sportswear Facebook page and I loved the message.  We all get stressed and have different methods of dealing, both good and bad.  Some take a drink, some eat, some do drugs.  On the positive side, some meditate, do yoga or exercise.  While stress seems to invade our lives more and more, we need to find positive ways to deal with things that do not involve put our heads in the pantry or looking for solutions at the bottom of the glass (I am not one who starves in stressful times, I am much more likely to search for the cheese or chips). Instead, get your shoes on and go for a walk, take deep breaths and appreciate the world around you.  Find something to smile, if not laugh at and feel the burden lift.  I am under no illusion that this will solve…

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Better grades? Yes!

Is it possible to just change your thinking and change your grades? Yes.  A student in our program raised her grades by adjusting her thought patterns and applying some fun exercises that helped her become a better student.  Being a better student = getting better grades. 

Ask us how she did it!